Well, I spent a lot of time this morning uploading some of our trip pictures. More will come eventually. That's the "good", now in the spirit of keeping it real here's some of my "bad and ugly". I've had a pretty stinky day. Jake was very mean to me because we didn't go out to lunch like I told him we might IF he helped clean up in the morning (he didn't help clean up). He can be so volitile, he actually packed a suitcase and was going to move into the backyard. When I stated crying, he backed down, but it's exhausting!
Then there was another issue in the family today that's got me questioning my reaction. I want to be able to keep it real, but I'm trying to avoid pointing fingers (except at Jake:)), so I'll attempt to speak in general terms. How, as a parent, do we know when we are doing the right thing? How much should we really expect from our kids? How much is too much? How much is not enough? I'm talking in terms of schoolwork, housework, out of the home commitments, politeness etc... At what point does the encouragement (pushing) backfire? I think I've blogged this before, but it's worth repeating...I've never been a fan of the "when they're little the problems are little, when they're big the problems are big" mantra. This is because when my firstborn was little (5 lbs 12 oz) we had big problems (seizures, a stoke, pediatric ICU)--today's problems are nothing like that. I just feel like I'm walking a tightrope between expecting too much and expecting too little. When will I know it's right? When should I push more? When should I holdback? Any advice?