Monday, September 15, 2008
I'm not even sure I've spelled that word correctly. Maybe because we don't use it enough in our family. You may have noticed that our kids' lives are one big party after another. Night of Joy, weekends with Meme and Grampa Carlie, friends over, sleep overs, park days, Disney, vacations, field trips, etc...etc... They do have chores, school work and responsibilites (and we have had to deal with more hospitalizations than one family should have to and too many funerals in the past 4 years). For the most part, however, they lead a pretty fun "cushy" life. They are really good kids and they generally appreciate all of the "good things in life". But they are kids and sometimes they make bad choices. Sadly, sometimes those bad choices go without consequences because we already have a commitment to be somewhere. We can't for example say "you must stay home all day" when there is a play that night and the rest of the cast is counting on them. Last spring we had tickets to a baseball game (mostly because Jake was really getting into baseball), but he behaved really badly on the way down there. It would've been the perfect time for the consequnce of not getting to go, but we already had the tickets, the other two deserved to go, and it was in the 90's outside and impractical and unsafe for me and Jake to stay in the car (and if we went somewhere else instead that too could be considered a reward). Anyway, he got to go to the game even though he didn't deserve it. Well tonight was an opportunity to actually enforce consequences. We were going to get to stay at a hotel with our friends tonight (who had won a two night stay at a Theatre raffle). I think everyone is overtired from another weekend of so much fun and activity, and we didn't have a very good day. We are not at the hotel tonight, but instead going to bed very early at our own house. They still have the possibility of meeting our friends at Hollywood Studios tomorrow, but they must show me, that they deserve it and will appreciate it. We'll see how it goes.